Few people realize that most dating sites keep all users listed indefinitely, and some refuse to purge their database of old members, even if said former members have found love and deactivated their account.
While you can read the Dating Site Fine Print of any individual company you sign up with to find out, I'd just assume the site you're with does this.
As well, most of the up-and-coming and/or popular dating sites will either pay folks to chat with members, fluff the numbers a bit with fake profiles, or both.
I've come across numbers as high as 30% where the people listed, for whatever reason, weren't actually available to meet - so this is a factor to take into account.
I should note I'm a bit older than the average, highly-desirable range for ladies of 29-35, so younger women may get even more. Avoid the newest signups because they're likely inundated with messages anyway, and if you can, see if anyone over 35 appeals to you in your searches - heterosexual women between 35-45 get fewer messages than any other age range according to Ok Cupid. ) and then any of the questions we've both answered that we strongly disagree on.
When there's a lot of competition for a woman's attention, they have to filter whom they want to respond to right off the bat. (For more on this topic, take a peek at Hacking Ok Cupid To Your Advantage).
Very careful research." He also said that e Harmony promotes heterosexual marriage, adding that (at the time) same-sex marriage was illegal in most places, saying "We don't really want to participate in something that's illegal." In another interview, Warren went into more detail on his own views, noting that "cities like San Francisco, Chicago or New York... Olson, an attorney for e Harmony, said that even though the company believed the complaint was "an unfair characterization of our business", it chose to settle because of the unpredictable nature of litigation.
In my opinion, the answer is a complex one, and I'm unsure if explaining it in great detail it'll make a difference with what you're really after: meeting more women, or perhaps just meeting The Woman of Your Dreams.
With that in mind, I'll only go into the why's briefly, and try to spend more time on the how's (what you can do to increase your responses).
Users looking for a same-sex relationship will be matched on e Harmony's sister site,
When it began, e Harmony did not offer same-sex matches; it now offers them through a separate service, Compatible Partners.