Train yourself to say what you want them to do instead of what you don’t. Notice the common element is starting with the word “you” and then acknowledging what they worked at, rather than what you think about it.
So, you can say “Walk, please” instead of “No running”. Children are programmed to question, analyze and wonder about situations.
“Do you choose to tell (Mom) what happened, or choose for me to tell her with you there to make sure that I explain it correctly?
” This gives the child respect and responsibility for their actions.
I can’t tell you the number of times I hear that phrase when around other parents, even though it is highly ineffective.
First, you are threatening a child, which makes them fearful of you.
Train yourself to acknowledge their behavior without a judgment, such as “You chose to sit the other way on the chair” or “You colored the grass purple instead”.
This gives them the freedom to be creative and discover things without expectations.
We often try to teach lesson to kids about life at the most inappropriate times.
If a child gets hurt because they were doing something dangerous or inappropriate, they already learned their lesson.
It is wasted words to try to express a rule when a child is upset, as they focus on one thing at a time.